How a baby reacts to being separated from a parent varies dramatically from child to child. Some may pitch a real fit and some will take it all in stride. And some might do both at various times. Regardless of your child’s temperament or current mood, it’s a good idea to establish a short, upbeat guilt free good-bye routine and stick to it.
Here’s how:
*Always say good bye-it might be tempting to sneak out while the child is otherwise distracted but don’t! This will only upset your child and undermine his sense of security. Remember that security is everything to a small person. Always hug and kiss your baby before you leave and tell them you’ll be back soon. Even if a child is too young to comprehend these words, he’ll understand the tone and the mood-so be positive and cheerful.
*Keep the good-bye short and sweet-lengthy farewell’s or trips back into the house only make things harder on your baby, yourself and the caregiver.
*Have a happy reunion-greet him with enthusiasm and affection. Never say “I’m so sorry I had to leave you.” This will only lead your child to think that temporary separation is a bad thing.
Leaving your baby in the care of others and establishing a good-bye routine teaches valuable lessons. A baby learns to accept other trusted adults and he learns that you will always return. Later if you put your child in daycare this will be particularly helpful.
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